“The computer is sluggish and not operating properly, shall we get it fixed?” Nope, toss it and buy a new one. “The hem came out of my skirt, where do I get it repaired?” Just donate it and buy a new one. “My car’s engine is making a strange noise and I don’t know what it means.” Bring it in and we’ll help you replace it, no money down! - We live in a “throw away” society; rather than “repair it” our culture has a “replace it” mentality. This does not only apply to material possessions (computers, clothes, cars, etc) but in marriages as well. I do not believe this is what God intended for his beloved children.
In The Beginning…
"But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.' 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
There are rare occasions when divorce is sanctioned by God (i.e. adultery) however that is not usually what destroys a marriage. It is the little things, the tiny disputes which used to be few and far between, it is the disagreements over the budget, the feeling of having your time controlled and bitterness over differences. These add up and instead of talking it over, seeking forgiveness or counseling…a lawyer is called. In a moment, “what God has joined together” is ripped apart. I see a world where spouses are taken for granted because they can be replaced and this makes me sad. This is not the legacy we should leave our children. I’ve been divorced, I’m a child of divorce but I’ve also seen firsthand God’s redemptive power. My father has now been happily remarried for 28 years. My mother has been happily remarried for 23 years. Thankfully God does allow second chances, I have also been remarried for 6 stressed but blessed years. Is it easy, calm, without conflict? In a word…NO. But I don’t want a throw-away marriage. I want something worth working for, someone worth fighting for, someone who believes I’m worth holding onto. Some days I take my husband for granted, but I always want him to feel respected and loved. Some days I feel taken for granted, but today, I feel cherished. Today, my wonderful husband sent me the following text and asked me to include it in a blog:
“My wife is the heart of our family, she is the one EVERYONE goes to for answers and advice. She is the one who devoted her whole holiday weekend to everyone but herself. From cleaning the kitchen after others made a mess, to doing all the laundry, to helping me with my projects and playing with the grandkids. And don’t forget, she also makes sure to fill my ‘love tank’ no matter how tired she is. My wife is one-of-a-kind.”
Yes, I'll take my "blessed but still stressed" life ANY DAY! Praying the same for you. CAS